Farner Bocken & helping build my shed is how our families met. Hard working days & many nights of fun&laughter…so the news brought sadness to our home also. Wishing with all my heart there were something that could be done to take away the pain many are going through, but the isn’t. You will undoubtedly find that people say&do the most incredibly stupid things in their effort to comfort family & friends. Forgive us all, for I have found that sympathy (& in my case, empathy) are not founded on constructive, intellectual thought processes but rather on emotions. After my 23yr old brother’s death, people were telling me-we should do this or don’t do that as an aid in recovering from our grief. I was confused because all we knew was that there was this incredible pain that seemed only to get worse. Then a very understanding woman said what works for others won’t work for you. Each loved one who leaves has their own special relationship with those left behind that is not duplicated in any other family. We must each find for ourselves what it takes to replace the pain with memories & mend the pieces of our broken hearts. Someday you’ll find (without thinking about it) that it doesn’t hurt as much as today. And on some other day, it won’t hurt as much as it did that day. You’ll never stop missing him but you’ll discover he’s still with you, truly. My deapest sympathy to all of you! Brenda Beyerink
Brenda Beyerink
Farner Bocken & helping build my shed is how our families met. Hard working days & many nights of fun&laughter…so the news brought sadness to our home also. Wishing with all my heart there were something that could be done to take away the pain many are going through, but the isn’t. You will undoubtedly find that people say&do the most incredibly stupid things in their effort to comfort family & friends. Forgive us all, for I have found that sympathy (& in my case, empathy) are not founded on constructive, intellectual thought processes but rather on emotions. After my 23yr old brother’s death, people were telling me-we should do this or don’t do that as an aid in recovering from our grief. I was confused because all we knew was that there was this incredible pain that seemed only to get worse. Then a very understanding woman said what works for others won’t work for you. Each loved one who leaves has their own special relationship with those left behind that is not duplicated in any other family. We must each find for ourselves what it takes to replace the pain with memories & mend the pieces of our broken hearts. Someday you’ll find (without thinking about it) that it doesn’t hurt as much as today. And on some other day, it won’t hurt as much as it did that day. You’ll never stop missing him but you’ll discover he’s still with you, truly. My deapest sympathy to all of you! Brenda Beyerink
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